Bouncing Back

[The right way]

One break up I had when I was young, about 18, I had realized he was married after over two months of dating, (we were on a course together in Onterio) and he was hawt. I told him that was it and went to the club that night and there he was, across the room, looking so good and telling me with his big brown eyes and his smirky smile that I really do want him anyway and he was right but I kept my distance. A tall nicely dressed guy walked over to me and said "pretty persistant isn't he?" Then he sat down at my table and told me he needed someone this evening for company and he knew I did too so why don't we keep each other company. We spent two wonderful weeks together and then our courses ended and we went on our way back to our homes. It was a great way to end what I had thought was a great thing till I found out about his wife and kid (we had actually talked about getting transfered together, what a sick guy,,,) and it filled my time of stay there and I still remember him as my saviour and friend with no regrets this many years later. Not that that is the way to do it all of the time but the second guy made no promises and we had the greatest time and when I saw Darryl around it bothered me less and less each day till he was no more then any other walking the halls to and from our courses. I have tried other stuff too, like thinking about something I don't like about a guy I broke up with and thanking myself for not having to go through what might have been more work for me then a relationship. I am not a writer or an artist but these days I have my computer (my fave passtime) which would help if I was to break up again, right now things seem to be more stable then ever before so I can't see it happening after so many years already. I hope all those here who might end up in a break up will find the best solution quickly and find someone even better because he/she is out there, trust me, I thought many times that there was no one left for me and I was doomed even when I made the call to break up.

[deltic]

For me it took a long time to bounce back, I was deeply hurt by the break up of a relationship. I should have got out long before but I kept trying and the way I was treated took all my confidence and left me feeling worthless. I felt so alone I just slept and worked. Eventually someone with a lot of patients and understanding helped me to enjoy life again and rebuild my confidence.

[mrfadedjeans]

The best thing for me was forcing myself to be a friend with the person. I behaved like i was ok and liked them but inside i didnt. After a while i noticed the anger inside me from recolecting the realtionship went away. I think this is called forgiving. I feel its impossible to recover more quickly that hinding your feelings and being freindly with the person who hurt you. After a while its very theraputic than trying to sort out thought about them for months after.